In Your Words

Stories from people who chose abstinence

I'm choosing abstinence before marriage because I believe that sex is sacred and taking it outside of marriage destroys that sacredness. This truth is very well demonstrated in our society today. People live together outside of and before marriage, and all of a sudden marriage ceases to be a commitment because it's not different than living with someone without being married to him or her. In other words, sex is one of the things that keep a marriage together—if this weren't true, why are affairs such a big deal?

Another reason is that having sex with someone opens up the potential of getting pregnant, even with protected, "safe" sex. This creates a problem for the two people involved since they are not married and may not even be interested in being married to each other. And speaking of "safe" sex, it's a misnomer. Sexually transmitted diseases do not have any regard for "protection" anymore these days. All in all, abstinence is the only choice that makes the most sense.

-Lana

My faith plays a big part in my decision to remain abstinent until marriage. I believe that my earthly body is a gift, and I decided to stay abstinent until marriage to show that I value this gift.

If I am to get married, I will make a promise to give myself to my husband, and only to him, for the rest of my life. That will be a lifetime bond between the two of us. What a beautiful and priceless gift!

-Kasey

For me during high school, dating was something I loved to do. I always wanted a boyfriend or at least had to have a guy interested in me. I was the typical teenage girl I guess, wanting that relationship. However much I wanted a boyfriend, though, I was never willing to compromise who I was or what I believed in just to get that attention. I made a commitment to myself, my parents, and my faith that I would only date guys who held the same beliefs as me and who respected themselves and me.

I went through the temptations that a lot of girls go through with their boyfriends, but with the help of good friends, I withstood them. My commitment to abstinence was one I will never regret. I now have a wonderful husband who was committed to the same values as I was.

-Chantelle

 

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